Dear Friends, Colleagues, and Diocesan Family,
Thank you for your messages of comfort on the occasion of Dad’s death. The support of so many has been overwhelming – so much so, that I hope you will forgive a general reply. I have been particularly touched by the number of notes received from people who have also lost a parent. Your reflections have made my own loss especially poignant, and I know that I am not alone in feeling that, with the passing of a parent, we move up in the queue, as it were.
The United Methodist church was full for the memorial service last Monday. We sang a lot and appreciated the sensitive leadership of the pastor. My brother gave a moving tribute that elicited a litany of stories at the reception afterwards, stories that were new to us and that were a testimony to my Dad’s character (and the fact that he was a character!). I rendered an unworthy homily (now up on my blog), where you will see that I was able to give my Dad last rites. It was humbling to usher into the next world a loved one who welcomed me into this world.
The last few days have been spent attending to the wrapping up Dad’s affairs and involved trips to the funeral home, the bank, the lawyer, the social security office, etc. Mom is pretty plucky and is determined ‘carry on’ as normal, and is bent on remaining in Texas. She is surrounded by a compassionate and caring Christian community. For all of us I expect that the reality of his death will hit us at unexpected moments. We shall continue to be thankful for your prayers as we resume our daily routines in the knowledge that we have been both impoverished by his loss but blessed by the deepening of love that we have witnessed in our family and friends.
In God’s grace,